How Therapy Works
Did you know that therapy begins when you decide to make that first call to me? It has been shown that people often start feeling better when they call, talk to a therapist, and schedule the first appointment. That is because taking action makes a person feel more hopeful and empowered.
You can tell me what you’d like to accomplish in therapy and decide if you feel comfortable with me. Each time we meet, I’ll get to know you better and understand more and more about what is causing your distressing emotions. Many people don’t tell their therapist everything at first because it takes a little time to build a relationship of trust.
If I think that I can help you meet your goals, and if you want to work with me, we’ll establish an appointment schedule. Most people attend weekly and progress faster that way. Otherwise, we can meet as frequently or infrequently as you wish. If I do not think that I am the best therapist for you, if I do not have enough expertise in your area, I will be happy to refer you to another therapist who may have more knowledge or experience in the issues you are having.
Therapy has been called a special kind of conversation. You talk as much as you need and I’ll listen. I love listening to you! However, I give genuine feedback. You might not agree with me and that’s okay! Therapy is also what happens between sessions when you contemplate what we talked about and implement even one small step, such as thinking about approaching your situation from a different perspective. A really important fact is that I cannot do your work for you; I cannot work harder at your life than you.
I use a combination of therapeutic approaches, including cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT), mindfulness, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), narrative therapy, existential therapy, EMD and EMDR (specialized trauma, addictions, and anxiety therapy). My style is person-centered and non-judgemental. It is also interpersonal and relational, meaning that I believe that it is within our relationships and connections that we’re healed. When people don’t find that in their personal lives, they can find it in therapy and then learn how to transfer those skills, strengths, and new confidence into their personal relationships.
When you’ve achieved your goals for therapy, we’ll summarize your accomplishments and progress. Some people decide to schedule their appointments with more and more time between them until they stop altogether. You decide. The door will always be open for you to return!